Wedding Cake Etiquette
Etiquette and traditions surrounding wedding cakes
Simply serving the wedding cake is one of the most traditional components of any wedding cake. You don’t need to worry about doing anything wrong as long as you serve a slice to every guest although it’s a good idea to follow good wedding cake etiquette when serving the cake which we will cover here. There are however some quirky traditions representing old skool etiquette you can chose to observe if you wish.
The Groom’s Cake
In parts of England the Groom having his own cake is a tradition that still exists albeit being rare even though Prince William had one as his wedding. Traditionally the cake was purposefully baked to meet the groom’s tastes often decorated not detract attention from the main wedding cake, today there are no rules, anything goes as long as it is respectable!
It’s difficult to pinpoint where the tradition originated as the Groom’s cake rarely got a mention. It would seem the main wedding cake was referred to as the bride’s cake and the groom always had his own cake. If you do want a groom’s cake, we suggest you get a 6-8 inch single tier cake using a single colour to avoid taking away the spotlight from the main wedding cake.
Cake under the pillow
Perhaps the oldest remaining traditional existed before wedding cakes were covered in icing and used as centre pieces. It was believed that if a single lady brought home a slice of wedding cake (or some crumbs) and placed it under her pillow she would dream of her future husband that very night. Today people don’t consider a slice of cake a good bed mate but do sometimes request to take a slice of cake home. Be ready with cake boxes ready just in case, especially if you have served an epic meal your guests will surely be full.
Saving the top tier of the wedding cake
I kinda of wish I had done this but I didn’t like the idea of eating old cake so I didn’t. It was traditional for the newly wedded couple to save the top tier of their wedding cake to eat on their one year anniversary. This is thought to be because the couple would have children by then. The cake used at the time was relatively easy to preserve at it was fruitcake which isn’t favoured by modern brides (nor us). Today it isn’t totally uncommon for the couple to preserve the top tier of the wedding cake until after their honeymoon or on their one month anniversary. If you do want a cake after a year we recommend asking us to arrange a nice and fresh miniature version of your wedding cake.
Wedding Cake-Cutting Etiquette
Traditionally the wedding cake is served near the end of the wedding reception to signify the celebrations are coming to an end in an hour or so and to allow guests time to digest their meals. Today however it is very acceptable and the norm to cut the cake at the end of the meal. This is partly to ensure early leavers - those with children for example - get a chance to have cake and because it allows the guests to enjoy the rest of the evening without any more formalities…you know what I mean!
A big part of the cake-cutting ceremony involves the couple feeding each other cake. To avoid any surprises we strongly recommend you agree how this will be done beforehand. You can feed each other the cake using your fingers or forks. Some couples choose to be less formal and ram the cake into each other’s faces. Be warned gents not to ruin your new wife’s hair and makeup, not to mention the dress!!!